what is coaching?
Coaching is not therapy
Coaching is a professional relationship that helps people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers, businesses or organizations, helping them to bridge the gap between where they are now and where they want to be. By partnering with you, the client, a coach will help to design the life you want, drawing out your own brilliance and resources so that you can achieve excellence and create a purposeful, extraordinary life.
In general, therapy is a long term solution used to treat childhood and adult trauma, disorders of the mind (mental illness), a variety of diagnoses found in the DSM, and is considered the main treatment for anxiety, depression and addiction. Therapy is also used by people who are struggling with normal, everyday challenges. While coaching and therapy share some similarities, therapy tends to focus on the impact the past has on the present, on healing unresolved issues, and relieving emotional pain. The therapist is considered to be the expert, the one with answers about what is right for the client.
Coaching focuses on the present and future, the client's strengths, life purpose and goals, while working with clients to create possibilities to enrich their life by helping people identify their goals and the obstacles they are facing. Like therapy, coaching involves guidance and support but also places a great deal of emphasis on accountability, enabling people to do more than they might on their own. It has been my experience, both my own and through observation, that coaching is a natural next step after a successful round of therapy in which the client's traumas or issues have been worked through or resolved. If you are ready to take bold action towards creating the life of your dreams, coaching is the right choice for you!
The Coaching Relationship
The relationship with your coach will be one of the best you've ever experienced. I describe the relationship with my own coach as the best friend/older sister I never had! Although I feel accepted, supported, and unconditionally validated, she unapologetically pushed back against the limiting beliefs that did not serve me, forcing me to reframe my thoughts and situations - all while holding me accountable for taking action steps towards the life of my dreams. The underlying philosophy behind coaching is that we have an infinite amount of energy, wisdom, ability and genius waiting to be set in motion. We can create the life we want faster and more easily by partnering with a coach who helps us use our resources to facilitate change and realize our full potential.
Coaches honor you as the expert in your own life and work, believing that every client is creative, resourceful and whole. Standing on this foundation, the coach's responsibility is to:
Discover, clarify, and align with what you, the client, wants to achieve
Elicit client-generated solutions and strategies
Hold the client responsible and accountable
"Relationships are the container everything else fits into"
How can I help you?
I know it sounds cliche - but having a coach literally changed my life. I honestly would not be writing these words right now if it had not been for enrolling in a 90 day coaching package, even after the sticker shock of the price! Looking back it was hands down one of the best investments I have ever made, and if I had to do it all over again I would pay double the price if that's what it took.
I share this with you not to brag on my own coach, which is certainly deserved, but to illustrate that I not only talk the talk, but walk the walk. We all need people in our corner to hold space for us in a non-judgmental way, to keep us accountable and help us become the kind of people we want to be. Outside of my coach training and certifications, I wholeheartedly believe that the best coach for you is one that has been where you are, and was able to get to where you want to be. Many people put an enormous effort towards changing their lives with the skills they have - but it leads nowhere because those skills or thinking are what brought them to this point in the first place.
The cycle of failed attempts to change often brings people to giving up on relationships, success and changes that they deeply desire. Many people then start compromising, negotiating with the circumstances that are serving as a barrier their happiness, feeling as if there is no real road to change. I am here to show you that there is a way towards creating the life you desire, and together we can identify what it takes to get there. I hope to hear from you soon!
“You can’t solve your problems with the same thinking that created them.”