To Create a Life You Love Do This ONE Thing
It’s Monday afternoon and I just got off a call with one of my favorite 1:1 clients. ……Ok who am I kidding you are ALL my favorites!
It was such an enlightening call for both of us, she walked away with a plan to change something she didn’t even know was holding her back, and I walked away with a deeper understanding of a cheesy quote!
Or quotes I should say.... you know all of those “Do more of what you love” and “Find what you love & do that” quotes on Instagram & Pinterest.
You know exactly what I’m talking about - you’ve probably even posted some, I know I have!
Today I was following up on the morning routine that she had created for herself when we first began working together a few months ago. In the beginning of our coaching relationship she needed help with better utilizing her time to get her business started, realizing that staying up way too late at night & waking up late in the morning was creating a crappy start to the day.
Right away we created a time budget & morning routine so I assumed the problem was solved. Boy was I wrong!
My smart & determined client stuck to it in the beginning, but expressed on today’s call that she was no longer sticking to it. When I dug a little deeper she admitted that she hated the routine she had created & the thought of doing it every morning made her not want to get out of bed.
My initial thought was - if you hate it WHY did you decide you HAD to do it?
But aren’t we all guilty of that sometimes? Setting arbitrary “have to’s” for ourselves, then topping it off with a dose of guilt when we don’t do it….. are you raising your hand?
We explored the reasons WHY she had created the morning routine that she did, and the tendency to get stuck on what we think we should do - and how it’s NOT a binary choice.
Let me explain - its NOT do A and be successful, do B and fail…… but SO OFTEN we get stuck here. I struggled with this same issue when I was trying to decide if & when to leave my principal job. I was miserable & broke, yet I set all of these conditions around when I could leave or if I had to stay.
If you’ve followed my story you know I literally woke up one morning, through all of that thinking out the window and turned in my resignation. Best decision ever.
Back to my client - by end of our call today she created a routine that includes what she LOVES & also happens to be productive! She was thrilled that she no longer to had dread getting up in the morning, and began looking at other areas of her life in which she was applying the same A or B thinking. WIN!
So back to my headline - do this one thing to create a life you love......
To create a life you love, you have to actually CREATE a life you love!
Before you think I am just giving you another cheesy quote hear me out…..There are always going to be things in life that are less than enjoyable - your job, inlaws whatever - because of that you HAVE to fill the the empty spaces with what you LOVE.
So many have a clear picture of what they want - but don’t actually DO THE THINGS!
You are literally creating your life with every action & inaction you take - are you creating a life you love?
Know you want more out of life but don’t know where to start? I’ve been there - overworked. stressed out, still broke, and wondering if this was going to be the rest of my life.
It doesn’t have to be.
I made a life changing decision 2 years ago when I signed up with my first coach - and I haven’t looked back since. My life changed so much that even my (now ex) boss noticed….. and then I quit!